I crossed my legs and sat down with a heavy thud on the maroon rug in the praying area of my house. The song “Rather Be” by Clean Bandit swirled inside my brain as I tried to push all songs, equations and WordPress blogs out of my head and think of some prayer to recite. I ran an uninterested gaze over the innumerable images and idols that lay neatly arranged in the three foot high mini-temple. There is a clay idol of Lord Hanuman – most powerful God in the eternal faithful service of Lord Rama. There are two bronze idols of Lord Krishna – the one who wears a peacock feather, plays a flute, and had roughly 16,000 wives. He used to be my “favorite” god when I was a kid, because he is portrayed as a naughty kid in mythology. There is a huge framed painting of Sai Baba. There are Laxmi and Ganesha – the goddess and god of wealth and good luck. And there are several framed pictures of the almighty Devi, the Goddess who incarnates in nine different forms (avatars) in the Hindu Mythology.
Earlier in the evening my mom had come to my room and had given me a short lecture on how disappointed she was in me. Why? Because it has been 4 days now that one of the major 9-day long Hindu festival called “Navratri” (“Nav” for nine, “Ratri” for night) started and I did not light a single lamp or an incense stick or even bow my head in front of the Goddesses. She asked me why I do not feel the need to follow any religious tradition; why doesn’t it “ever come from within” me; and of course how would I manage this “irreligious and irresponsible” behavior once I get married and have to stay with the in-laws. I hung my head in silence and nodded once or twice and then just in order to make her feel better I said as sweetly as I could, “Alright I’ll go and light a lamp and chant some prayers.” She gave me her sideways look and left the room.
I did light a lamp later, and an incense stick, tried to remember some prayer to “sing” and even tried to “make a wish to God”. But absolutely NO muscle in my heart twitched. I did not feel ANY devotion or reverence towards the beautifully decked up Gods and Goddesses in my temple. And I was not even trying to hate or abhor the entire concept of religion and God. Rather I was trying to steer my mind and heart into “talking” to those doe-eyed goddesses and “asking” them to bless me and my soul. But NONE of that happened. The tiny part of my brain that tried to steer me into making a small talk with God, was overshadowed by the LOUD blaring noise that constantly told me, “There is nothing called God. And you talk to no one. You talk to the air. Because there is no God and no one ‘listens to your prayer’. The only one who listens to your prayers is your own self“.
Every single time I visit a Temple, a Church, a Gurudwara, a Mosque, I battle these thoughts. I don’t want to make a fake conversation with a fake “Person” called “God” and ask him/her to “Listen to my prayers”. Oh heck! I don’t even do a prayer or make a wish. But there are times when I do want to make a desperate wish. And in those times I do want a “Real God” who would register all these wishes and make them come true, but then that same loud blaring noise in my head mocks me and tells me not to be so foolish and weak.
So how does a lesser mortal like me survive the times of utter despair, helplessness and fear? I have created this safe buffer zone, where I am SURE that there is nothing called “God“and “God” will not “Listen” to any butt load of sincere crap, but at the same time I have MADE myself believe that there is an Universal Power. Now, am not even sure if there is an Universal Power that exists in any form. And even if it does exist, is it any use except for me holding on tight to the thought of that Universal Power to “save” me when “an earthquake hits the city” or “there is a blackout inside the Metro” or “please save” my grandfather from dying of a cardiac arrest? I don’t think of that Universal Power when I go out clubbing or get drunk or kiss a guy. I don’t know what is the exact function of the Universal Power, if it exists. But the concept of Universal Power helps the lesser mortal in me to cling on to false hopes.
As I said, I have created a safe buffer zone, wherein my practicality and desperate foolery don’t clash.
P.s. : I feel humiliated when even some of my “cool” friends say they feel peace and calm and connected to “God” when they visit religious places. I have rarely felt so. I admire the architecture, the big gardens in temple arenas, the hustle-bustle of people and the devotion they have, but I don’t feel connected to anything. I could be inside the main lair of a sacred temple, facing the most “divine” God, and still be thinking of Butter Chicken and Soda.
P.p.s: Some other day I might rant on whether heaven and hell exist. Is the theory of Karma for real? What is the definition of Sins? Mysterious shit.
Btw. What is this Clean Bandit thingi? I do not follow organised religion. Yet, I like Sikhism, Shiva, and Pan. And, the Devil.
Peace on earth, and follow your own path !
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I haven’t yet found my path. Still searching. I think I shall dwell in the buffer zone for a long time.
And Clean Bandit is a British band. This song has some really nice music. New stuff Rajiv 😉 Give it a listen. You might like it 🙂
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I come from the old generation. Jethro Tull, Led Zep, The Doors, The Dead, Jimi Hendrix, Deep Purple, cream….
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Haha and I absolutely revere them all !! Hendrix, Deep Purple, The Who, The Doors, Zeppelin, Derek and the Dominos, BeeGees. Oh the list is endless. Major retro fan. But some of the new stuff is really good too!
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Okay… Shall venture into the dark, then!
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I believe the Universal Power and God are the same thing. Not totally devoted to going to temples and indulging in idol worship but yeah I call that universal power my God.
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Am still trying to figure out what I believe in and what is the extent of my belief. I have no faith in anything except my own meek mortal self. I am just selfish to even acknowledge an Universal power to help me in my low days. Ah! Too much complicated crap.
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I connected closely with this post. Honest and insightful as always. And, no you are not an asshole. I was raised and married in the Catholic Church, and now I couldn’t feel spiritually more removed.
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Is it even worth it being so spiritually removed? What are we gonna do when old age strikes and all our loved ones are dead. Haha 😀
God and the entire universe shall give us multiple fucks then lol.
And thanks for such encouraging comments. Real bliss is when people feel connected to your writing 🙂 Thanks so much.
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Reblogged this on Poorly Thought Out Thoughts and commented:
“Non practicing Catholic”. That is my answer to inquiries about my religious affiliation. Technically, I guess I’m an agnostic. While this is a common view in the U.S., we here don’t often acknowledge that people from other regions and religions struggle with this same spiritual uncertainty. Although I could not fully articulate the issue, another blogger has done so masterfully.
http://TheBlackandOliveChronicles is a twenty something year old Indian woman dealing with the same issue, but from a Hindi perspective. It is an extremely insightful read which I found fascinating. Enjoy.
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It’s always funny to me when people say that god is everywhere, but then you have to go to a specific place/mosque/church/temple just to speak to the all-powerful being. Also people who say they have a direct, ultra wifi connection with God always seem to say it so that others could hear because they could never tell that shit quietly to themselves. Now I’m just an asshole on the internet. But in your “buffer zone,” where the world is quiet, your “universal power” is telling you something. Listen to it.
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I have my ears and eyes open 😉 Let’s see whom I encounter first, God or The Devil. Because not only is the Godly mystery answered, but also the entire souls and ghouls existence issue concerns me 😛
What’s my problem?! Ok. Peace.
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